Summary: Biblical Marriage is a sermon preached in a marriage ceremony.
Today _________ and _________ are entering into wedlock. Well they have been waiting for this moment for a long time. However, I want to give you some inputs from God’s word as they are getting ready for the greatest moment of their lives.
1. Biblical Marriage Manual: The Holy Bible.
The Bible is God’s manual for marriage.
Matthew 5:24-25 24“Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.
Proverbs 14:26 Whoever fears the Lord has a secure fortress, and for their children it will be a refuge.
The Bible is a book of family and marriage. Everything concerning marriage is in this book. The Word of God begins with a marriage in the Garden of Eden. The Bible portrays the present relationship with the church and God as a husband and wife relationship. The Bible also ends with a marriage in the skies. So if man has to find any information or purposes of marriage, the Bible is the only authentic book.
The Bible has solution for every marriage needs and problem.
Response of a couple to the Bible.
- Meditate on the word of God daily.
- Go to a church that teachers the word.
- Serve the church.
- Pray every day.
Illustration: Do you remember the three-wheeled cycle rickshaw? Give the control of the first wheel to Jesus Christ. The husband and wife can follow as the rear wheels. Such homes are surely blessed.
2. Biblical Marriage Commitment: Permanent Commitment.
Reaffirm your marriage as a permanent and unbreakable commitment.
Be committed to your marriage until your death. Be committed to be together, build companionship, do things together and you are going to be joined until parted with death.
Matthew 19:6‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? 6So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
Romans 7:2 By law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive.
Illustration: I heard the story of an old man, the president of an university whose wife developed Alzheimer’s disease. Several years down the road it got so bad that she could not even recognize her husband anymore. This man was well to do, gave her the best treatment, he had plenty of people taking care of her. But one day he went in an announced his resignation to the board because he could spend his fulltime taking care of his wife. The board could not understand it, they tried to talk him out of it, they told him how needed he was. One member spoke up and said why would you do this, you can hire people to take care of her. The other member said why would you do this, she does not even know who you are. He looked up and said, “Listen I made a commitment to this woman over 50 years ago. She may not know who I am but I know who she is.” That is the kind of commitment we need to have in our marriages.
Be committed to one another. When you are committed you will be able to enjoy your husband or enjoy your wife. They are God’s provisions for your joy.
Take time to talk to your wife. She needs someone to relate to her.
3. Biblical Marriage Order: Husband – Wife- Children.
Husband is the leader.
Ephesians 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
Remember God first created the man. Then, when man and woman sinned in the garden, God held man responsible. Man is the leader and he is responsible for all things concerning the home.
Marriage Balance: Mutual submission and accountability.
Ephesians 5:21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
1 Peter 3:1-7 1Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 3Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. 4Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 5For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands. 6 like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear. 7 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
Ephesians 5:25-28 25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
4. Biblical Marriage Needs.
Recognize each partner in the marriage have distinctive needs and you must the committed to meet your partner’s needs.
Instruction for Husband: Love your wife.
Ephesians 5:33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Husband love your wife. She likes to hear that she is loved. She likes to receive symbols of love. Find her love language and take time to meet her love language
Security and protection. She needs to be protected and be secure in your company. Without any fear.
Tips for the Husband.
Do not abuse your wife.
Do not belittle her in front of others/children.
Consider her as a weaker vessel physically.
Love her – Show your love – Talk, spend time.
Freely respect her.
Submit to her.
Instruction for the wife: e needs to be respected and honoured.
Tips for the Wife.
Conclusion: Remember, there is nothing like a perfect marriage. It is how we make it work together with the grace of God, it is how we involve God in our marriage, and it is only when both the husband and the wife fulfill God’s purposes in marriage does a marriage become perfect. May God give every couple in this place to work out a godly marriage and may God bless ________ and ________ as you enter into wedlock today. Amen and God Bless YOU!