How to choose a friend?

How can we find true friendship in this world? What makes someone a friend? Is it their willingness to not let anything come between you and them? Is it their ability to keep your secrets? Is it their ability to make you laugh and have fun?

The Bible in the book of Proverbs says what makes someone a true friend.

Choose friends who will love us.

Proverbs 17:17 A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity. True friends are committed for life. They love us at all times of our life.

Choose friends who are honest with us.

A friend needs to be honest no matter what: Proverbs 24:26 An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips. We need friends who can point out our mistakes honestly. Such friends enable us to grow.

Chose friends who will enable us to grow.

Proverbs 27:17 As iron sharps iron, so one person sharpens another. True friendship enables us to grow. As we grow in this world we learn a lot from others, so it is very important that we have good friends.

The Bible in 1 Samuel 23 tells the story of such action in a friendship. The friendship between David and Jonathan is probably the most committed friendship in the entire Bible. David was a young man who had risen in popularity among his fellow countrymen because he had killed a giant who was terrorizing his country. Many of us have heard the story of David and Goliath. Because of David’s slaying of Goliath, David became more popular than the king of Israel; King Saul. King Saul grew to hate David and so he set out to kill him. David fled from the country but the king wanted to dispose of David so bad that he pursued David with the intention of killing him. This is where Saul’s son Jonathan went to David and helped him find strength in God.

Here we see a man, Jonathan, who was so committed to his friend, David even in the deepest, darkest time of his life. Proverbs 18:24 Says: One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. Jonathan and David’s friendship proved to be a true friendship. These two men truly cared for each other and had great trust and confidence in one another. Because of the true friendship they shared, David survived Saul’s assassination attempts and went on to become one of Israel’s greatest kings.

We cannot make it through life and live it to God’s fullest and best without the help of some key friendships. The key is to be wise in choosing our friends; those friends with whom we will be the closest and with whom we will have genuine friendships.

In conclusion, I want to tell that example of the greatest friend is found in the Lord Jesus Christ. He is indeed our true friend who gave up his life for us. John 15:13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. I pray that we will all find true friends in life and we in turn will be true to our friends like the friendship we have in Jesus Christ. Amen.